Peaceful Parent, Confident Children
Parent with Awareness
Model of Conscious Intent
Part II: Love Based Triangle
The primary goal of Peaceful Parenting is to live in the loved based triangle. To embody the love based triangle is to think, communicate and to behave from a consciousness of love. Once we understand the difference between the love based vs the fear based triangle, it is easier to bring our awareness to our thoughts, words and actions to quickly assess whether we are rooted in love or fear. The next steps are to develop strategies that allow us to quickly transition from the fear based triangle to the love based triangle. First it is important for us to create common language and clarity about the love based triangle.
Truth whether defined as a universal fact or as a personal belief, truth is subject to individual interpretations. Is truth only a truth when it is changeless? Can two opposing truths exist at the same time? Does truth exist outside our own observations? Truth could be described as the reality which most accurately and consistently captures the essence of the moment we are in. Truth is the guiding star that allows us to have awareness that is not spoiled by ego, greed and the attitude that our needs exceed the needs of others. Truth is simply what is showing up.
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Wisdom is when we apply our intellect, kindness and love to all choices and actions. Although people are naturally geared towards compassion, we are easily led astray due to negative and erroneous conditioning. Parents, who actively engage their children in discussions on philosophy and character development, breathe wisdom into their children’s lives. When parents are living examples of this wisdom, the child will also reflect to the world this loving and thoughtful behaviour. Wisdom is innate but needs to be nurtured. Although we can learn wisdom by life’s school of hard knocks, our children will benefit greatly from philosophical and ethical education. The more avenues we provide for the development of integrity in our children the better. Parents may leave the education of virtues and moral conduct to schools and churches, however parental modelling and guidance in the basics of life skills is valuable beyond measure.
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Love is our greatest gift. We express it in how we receive love and in how we give love. Love given unconditionally requires nothing in return, it is given regardless of how it might be received. Whether our love is ignored or gratefully recognized does not change the feelings or actions of an unconditionally loving person. Inappropriate or harmful behaviours by others will not alter or deter a person’s willingness to give unconditional love. The person who chooses to operate with unconditional love as their base does not take unkind behaviours of others in a personal way. Likewise, they equally do not take it personally if they are flattered, bribed or threatened. Unconditional love is a very personal commitment to self-growth and to the well-being of all creatures.
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Connection with self and others increases directly as our behaviour reflects unconditional love. When we apply our awareness and commit to operating from the love based triangle, we will naturally connect more deeply with others. Gratitude for, and cherishing these moments when we unite with another person increases our awareness of the love based triangle. This union of soul to soul is the sole purpose of relationships, adversity, opportunity and life.
We, as parents, can offer effort, time and the development of skills that enable authentic and loving connection with our children. It is not about us becoming a super enlightened, perfect parent, rather it is all about keeping our selves focused, as best we can, on being loving. Every small act of love will give birth to a growing consciousness of unconditional love. Our children flourish when our love becomes the glue that connects them to their own self confidence and self-realization.
We, as parents, can offer effort, time and the development of skills that enable authentic and loving connection with our children. It is not about us becoming a super enlightened, perfect parent, rather it is all about keeping our selves focused, as best we can, on being loving. Every small act of love will give birth to a growing consciousness of unconditional love. Our children flourish when our love becomes the glue that connects them to their own self confidence and self-realization.
The relationship that you create with your child profoundly affects your child’s confidence and inner peace.”
