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We can make judgements about the safe braking distance required as we drive our kid’s home on a snowy night. Judgements that are made when we are anxious or fearful, clouds our assessments and compromises our wise choices. If the judgement is made from a place of peace rather than from a place of fear, the choice is decisive, clear, and more in tune with reality.
When we make judgements of other people including ourselves that trigger us emotionally in a limiting way, then this mental action is considered ‘judgmental behaviour’. This judgmental attitude closes off our openness and willingness to seek a solution as we have already made the assumption that we know something. It is difficult to make a wise choice when we have already made our decision out of fear.
Judgements are often our egos attempt to separate ourselves from the behaviours of others, as we fear that we may possess that limiting behaviour as well. Something happens, like we are cut off in traffic, judgement arises and then we layer that initial judgement with many interpretations. Interpretations like that person must be an idiot or intoxicated, or that they are just lazy or selfish to drive so dangerously. If our inner state is already compromised with anxiety or fear, then we will most likely react with anger than respond from wisdom. The judgements or assumptions we make often trigger us further into frustration or anger.
To replace judgemental behaviour with a simple observation that someone cut us off in traffic even if it was a little scary, allows us to respond from peace rather than react from fear. We attempt to ‘not take it personally’ or to judge the other person harshly as we truly do not know the infinite complexities of this situation. Letting go our ego’s desire to be right, the emotion of fear runs its course quickly and we are able to focus in the moment on our driving. The event didn’t draw us into a mental whirlwind of judgement of the other driver. We cease to create a drama around a common occurrence. We are not fixed on the past in a repeating loop of negative thoughts that are destroying our inner peace and ability to drive safely.
Our children will occasionally cut us off, they may rear end us and occasionally they will T – bone us in direct confrontation.Our willingness to drop judgements and seeking solutions is a wonderful practice that nourishes growth and peace for all.Allow for all emotions accepting them all in. These emotions are energies that inform us of our thoughts bringing our true intentions to our awareness. It is important to note as parents and to coach our children that emotions like anger can be felt while not expressing them in harmful ways. Dropping judgements and encouraging observations with an eye on solutions rather than the blame that judgement offers is crucial to a peaceful parenting practice.
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We can make judgements about the safe braking distance required as we drive our kid’s home on a snowy night. Judgements that are made when we are anxious or fearful, clouds our assessments and compromises our wise choices. If the judgement is made from a place of peace rather than from a place of fear, the choice is decisive, clear, and more in tune with reality.
When we make judgements of other people including ourselves that trigger us emotionally in a limiting way, then this mental action is considered ‘judgmental behaviour’. This judgmental attitude closes off our openness and willingness to seek a solution as we have already made the assumption that we know something. It is difficult to make a wise choice when we have already made our decision out of fear.
Judgements are often our egos attempt to separate ourselves from the behaviours of others, as we fear that we may possess that limiting behaviour as well. Something happens, like we are cut off in traffic, judgement arises and then we layer that initial judgement with many interpretations. Interpretations like that person must be an idiot or intoxicated, or that they are just lazy or selfish to drive so dangerously. If our inner state is already compromised with anxiety or fear, then we will most likely react with anger than respond from wisdom. The judgements or assumptions we make often trigger us further into frustration or anger.
To replace judgemental behaviour with a simple observation that someone cut us off in traffic even if it was a little scary, allows us to respond from peace rather than react from fear. We attempt to ‘not take it personally’ or to judge the other person harshly as we truly do not know the infinite complexities of this situation. Letting go our ego’s desire to be right, the emotion of fear runs its course quickly and we are able to focus in the moment on our driving. The event didn’t draw us into a mental whirlwind of judgement of the other driver. We cease to create a drama around a common occurrence. We are not fixed on the past in a repeating loop of negative thoughts that are destroying our inner peace and ability to drive safely.
Our children will occasionally cut us off, they may rear end us and occasionally they will T – bone us in direct confrontation.Our willingness to drop judgements and seeking solutions is a wonderful practice that nourishes growth and peace for all.Allow for all emotions accepting them all in. These emotions are energies that inform us of our thoughts bringing our true intentions to our awareness. It is important to note as parents and to coach our children that emotions like anger can be felt while not expressing them in harmful ways. Dropping judgements and encouraging observations with an eye on solutions rather than the blame that judgement offers is crucial to a peaceful parenting practice.
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